Let’s be honest, dating in college is about as straightforward as your freshman calc class. Navigating these waters while trying to adjust to your new life away from home can be tricky, and will inevitably lead to heartbreak. Breaking up in college is less official than in high school because, well, dating in college is less official than in high school. And with things that are less official, come less closure. But there is hope! Here are 5 Surefire Ways to Get Over Your First College Heartbreak.
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1. Fake It Til You Make It
I’m a firm believer that happiness is a choice. And while you may want to pull those covers over your head and hide from the world until it stops hurting, you can’t. Force yourself to at least pretend to be happy. Tell yourself “I am choosing to be happy” before you walk out the door each day. Write it down 10 times in a journal. Heck, put a sticky note on your bathroom mirror. I don’t care what it is, but just find some way to remind yourself that you are in fact happy. Because, sooner than you think, one day you’ll walk out that door and you won’t have to tell yourself to be happy, you just will be.
2. Keep your mind busy
This one seems obvious, but it needs to be emphasized because the natural tendency is to want to keep to yourself because no one understands the pain you’re going through. But sitting in your room alone with your thoughts will only breed more pain. Go to dinner with your roommate, study with friends, or plan a girl’s movie night. Anything that takes your mind off of things for a second will become a safe haven and remind you that life will eventually go on.
3. Put your best foot forward… or shoe
The last thing you’re going to want to do when your heart is hurting is get all dolled up. But, its inevitable, you are going to see him at some point. And I cant explain why, but running into him in your favorite outfit on a good hair day is a feeling you can’t get anywhere else. And even if you never see him again, dressing up for yourself can actually make you happier. When you feel good on the outside, you’ll start to feel good on the inside.
4. Call your mom.. a lot
Your mom is your biggest ally through a college heartbreak. She will be removed from the situation and be able to give you an outside perspective. Plus, moms are equipped with experience that we like to forget that they have. And when you’re hurting, your mom is hurting. So call her, I promise she knows more than you think.
5. Take a step back… from boys
An easy thing to do when you’ve just gotten out of a relationship is to throw yourself into a new one. But, find a new boy to cover up your pain will only bring you temporary happiness. Instead, focus on strengthening your relationship with the girlfriends you have in your life. Because they’ll be the constant in your life through all the ups and downs.
College heartbreak is inevitable, but wallowing in that pain doesn’t have to be. So take it from someone who has had her heart broken a time or two, and use these 5 Ways to Get Over Your First College Heart Break. It will get better, I promise.
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